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My Innovating Advice: Develop Women’s Financial Confidence

I was fortunate enough be invited as guest speaker on Kate Holmes’ Innovating Advice podcast. I got to talk about my advocacy for financial confidence and the risks women face in wealth and finance. 

My advocacy on gender and pay equality came to be when I realised that women face a lot of long term financial risks due to their specific life circumstance. On one of my previous blog posts, I discussed the inherent risks of being a woman. 

A simulation of women’s wealth accumulation over a lifetime showed shocking numbers. A pay gap of only 10% ( all else equal) could lead to a wealth gap of approximately 40% between a man and a woman! 

To give you an idea of pay gaps in the EU, here are the numbers:

  • The country with the lowest pay gap as of 2019 is Romania at 3.5%.

  • The country with the highest pay gap as of 2019 is Estonia at 25.6%.

  • The EU average as of 2019 is at 16.0%.    

If you'd like to read more about this. You can access the fact sheet from the European Commission here.

Women sell themselves short

Further research shows that 8 out of 10 women believe their financial capabilities and knowledge are lower than their partners'. 6 in 10 women shy away from long term financial responsibility due to lack of financial confidence. In short, Women underestimate themselves and their capabilities.

My reaction to his research is simple: unless your partner would have a degree in finance, there is little reason to believe that they are inherently more savvy in long term financial matters. This is a perception gap that we really have to close.

Women are perfectly capable of managing short term financial matters, monthly budgets and household expenses. Trust me when I say this part of finance is far more time and energy consuming than long term financial planning. So if you’re already doing the hard part, why would you not be good enough to do the easy part, too?

To this I would also add a (potentially controversial) comment: if long term financial planning had been a boring chore, I am sure that historically, men would have found reasons to delegate it to the women in the first place. So rest assured that it is the more fun and engaging part of managing money!

Empower Women and Encourage Them To Step Up

If we want to reduce gender inequality, we have to empower fellow women to step up. We have to encourage them to learn and take responsibility when it comes to long term finances. We have to encourage and educate women about how we should perceive our worth, value our time, and plan for our financial futures. Women need to develop confidence so that they can fully take control of their finances. 

The first step I recommend:

IGNORE THE INTIMIDATING FINANCIAL JARGON and the fact that you feel it is too complex to understand. Finance is complex, but the good news is: you don’t need to be an expert to put a robust, long term financial plan in place.

To make an analogy with the medical world: you don’t expect to be knowlegeable yourself in anatomy and medicine before seeking out a cardiologist if you have a heart problem. So why would you expect to have to be knowledgeable in finance before seeing out a trustworthy financial advisory?

All YOU need to focus on is: clarifying your short term, mid term and long term goals. Translating that into a robust financial plan is not so hard once you have found the right advisor. The latter is probably the bigger challenge, especially for many women. How can I find an advisor I can trust, who is not just pushing products at me or charging me for “financial wellness” coaching that I don’t really need to pay for at all? If you’d like to discuss that topic in depth, direct mail me and I’ll be happy to address it in a future newsletter.

Women Are Not "Just A Segment"

Too many banks, financial advisors and event online platforms still tend to treat women simply as a segment to market to.  We women are about 50% of the population and we cannot accept to be an afterthought in their sales processes, designed to meet the needs and expectations of men. We have the right to expect a value proposition that is tailored to our needs: to the language we feel comfortable with, to the level of information we seek, to the life circumstances we face, and to the time management challenges we face juggling families and carreers.

From the start, businesses and sales processes need to be developed with women in mind. Whenever they create something -- product, service, platform, etc. - financial services providers need to become more inclusive and ask "Will this appeal to women as much as it will appeal to men?"

On our side, we women need to learn to be more confident in speaking out our needs and wants. We need to put our foot down and know our worth - and if we don’t feel comfortable talking about finances with an advisor who throws jargon at us, WE ARE NOT THE PROBLEM: it is the advisor who needs to adapt to our needs, and not vice versa. Women are the clients. Women don’t need fixing. The system needs fixing, to fully embrace women’s needs and meet their expectations.

Start Early: Empower Girls...And Boys!

As the saying goes: prevention is better than cure.

With that in mind, I encourage that you start teaching your kids about pay equality and financial confidence. It does not matter if they're a boy or a girl! What's important is that you open up these topics and teach them while they are young.

If they grow up aware and practising equality, then they can also become a positive force of change amongst their friendship circles and later on as professionals. After all, it only takes one to start a movement. If you also couple it with a lot of positive reinforcement and examples, then they're sure to grow up fighting for equality!

Once again, fellow parents, this is why I wrote A Smart Way To Start. I realised that only fighting for gender equality in the professional world is not going to be enough. We need to eliminate biases our children unintentionally grow up with. So I tried to break down all those concepts in a way that's easy to understand and to remember -- through rhymes and illustrations.

I do hope you found this helpful as you journey on through parenthood. If you'd like to learn more and read more tips, please subscribe to my Monthly Money Tips newsletter!

Teaching Kids About Sustainability | Financial Parenting 101

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In our busy daily lives, one thing that we don't always spend enough time on is teaching our kids about responsible and conscious living. However, I believe that an important (and often overlooked) aspect of any financial parenting is sustainability. 

Why Teaching Your Kids About Sustainability Is Important

What kind of world do we want to live in? That’s a big question.

Do we want cleaner water and clean air? Do we want children to go to school? Do we want cities with infrastructure that supports the inclusion of all people? These are things we often take for granted living in Switzerland or in Europe. But we should be mindful that this is not a reality for everyone on this planet. And it’s a great question to engage the kids with, in almost any daily circumstance, because it enables them to develop a sustainability mindset.

As I mentioned in a previous article, sustainability is also about longevity. It's about teaching kids how to allocate their resources. It's about showing kids how to protect our planet. It's about raising kids that are conscious and aware of how they can positively (and negatively) affect nature and society.

We can't delay teaching kids these principles when they're older. We have to integrate these kinds of lessons and learning when they are still young, because their money habits are largely set by age 7.

We would love them to all be sustainably aware as they are growing up!

How To Start Teaching Your Kids About Sustainability

1. Start at home.

As always, good practices start at home, where your kids can observe them and experience them everyday. Make sure that you are conscious of the little things. It can be something as simple as recycling.

2. Start small.

It can be something as simple as teaching your kids how to sort the trash or lessening single-use plastics. After all, sustainable eco-practices start with things that we do and encounter everyday!

3. Make your sustainable and eco-conscious decisions visible.

This is like the money tip I've given previously, where I ask you to make your money decisions visible to the kids. You have to give children the chance to see your sustainable decisions in action. You are their role model and this kind of visibility opens up great conversations.

4. Talk to them about your environmentally-conscious decisions.

When you bring along your kids during errand runs, try to explain to the the logic behind certain decisions you've made. For example, try to explain to them that you chose a certain dishwashing liquid brand over another because of its non-harmful components. Or explain that you choose to buy vegetables in the farmer's market because it lessens air pollution if trucks don’t have to transport the foods too far. It's about making sure that your kids know that you are making certain buying decisions. And making sure your kids can grow to understand the reason why you make these important decisions.

5. Never assume your kids are too young to learn!

Sustainability is a big word, which is probably why we try to avoid it when they're young. Don't be daunted! The important thing is that your kids are exposed to these practices. It's important also that they grow into a more sustainable and ecologically-conscious lifestyle. It will then be easier for them to consistently make good choices when they are older.

It's never too early for them to learn things that will help them protect their future.

Sustainability Is Protecting The Planet For The Future

We all love our kids. And by teaching them to make informed choices, we are helping to shape the better future we all wish for. Our kids will be the ones to reap the benefits of our drive to protect the planet. 

So practicing sustainability is about making sure that there are enough resources to go around for generations to come.

It's about making sure that our kids will inherit a world that is equal and just. 

And most importantly, it's about enabling your kids will do the same for theirs! Once we set precedent to our kids about our love for the planet and our will to protect it, they will continue the practice and pass it down to their kids too!

My Webinar With SmartPurse: The Importance of Teaching Kids About Money

Last April 21, I had the pleasure of delivering an online webinar hosted by SmartPurse. I was invited to talk about "How To Teach Your Kids About Money" in their Weekly Money Hour session. In this webinar, I got to talk to fellow parents about about the importance of teaching your kids about money. 

I discussed why it's important to introduce kids to the concept of money and savings as early as possible. 

I've worked in finance long enough to see that we need better ways to talk about money, especially to little girls. To tackle the gender pay gaps we still experience in the professional world, we need to equip young girls with the skills to talk about money with confidence. I realised that if we only talk about earning, equality and knowing your worth to adult women and men, we are tackling the problem 20 years too late! 

How so? 

Here are three important research-based facts:

Why It's Important To Start Teaching Your Kids About Money Early

  • Confidence is shaped by the age of 5.

  • Adult money habits are set by the age of 7.

  • Girls can experience pay gaps of 10-30% by the age of 10.

This is why I push for early financial education with kids, girls and boys alike.

The earlier we discuss money and confidence, the earlier we can help children to understand the notions of time-value and equality, and to adopt good money behaviours. Learning relies a lot on concrete actions and routines, so it's essential to start them early. You can incorporate money conversations and negotiation training in their everyday. Negotiating the value of a chore is an important part of learning to know one's worth and speaking up confidently to claim that worth. You can integrate these lessons on everyday things like allowances and chores.

With your guidance, your kids will be able to grow up responsibly, conscious about value, fairness and equality.

After all, it's easier to raise kids with the right habits. Undoing any bad habits they grew up with is so much harder.

The Earlier We Tackle The Problem, The Earlier We Will Solve It

According to the World Economic Forum, it will take about 257 years before we can reach economic gender parity. We cannot wait another 7 generations to close the gap. 

This is why I created A Smart Way To Start.  I want to encourage parents to teach their kids about money, equality and sustainability. If we start these conversations with kids early on, they will grow up and come into the workforce already well-informed. 

Imagine if we multiply these efforts to thousands or hundreds of thousands of families. We will come to a new generation of workforce that is financially-savvy and equality-minded. 

Imagine how pay and workplace equality will be revolutionised when a generation of well-informed children come of age. Imagine how policies and regulations will change when a generation of values-driven youth enter the workforce.

Financial Responsibility Isn't Only About Money, It's Also About Sustainability

When we teach kids about financial responsibility, we are teaching them how their money impacts our world. How it impacts others (fairness and equality) and how impacts our planet (responsible consumption/production and sustainable choices.

Indeed, money is not only a transmission of value, it's a transmission of values. With issues like global warming, unjust work policies, unsustainable business practices, every money decision counts! Teaching your kids about ethical and eco-friendly options lets them know that they have a choice when spending their pennies. Each product they choose to spend their money on will show that kind of practice and policies they support! When we choose consciously, we can have a huge positive impact!

That's how powerful money is.

Be Good Examples

At the end of the day, despite whatever money and sustainability lessons we try to impart to our kids, they won't believe us if we don't practice what we preach. We have to set good examples to our kids.

Let's be more conscious with our with our purchase choices, especially when we're around our kids. And even with our savings and investments, we can chose to steer our money towards more positive impact. This might still be quite an abstract notion for little kids, but as they grow older they will grasp this notion too. In whichever form we give money to companies, whether buying their products or buying their shares, we are supporting the way they do business. 

If we want to raise our kids to be conscious and discerning adults, it has to start from us.

If you'd like to watch the whole webinar, check the video below:

How To Teach Your Kids How To Save Money

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One thing that I want to talk about that may seem very obvious is how to teach your kids to save money. I talked about how important it is to teach your kids about money, to give them an allowance, and to open a bank account for them. Now, I want to talk about concrete steps on how to teach and encourage your kids to save money.

The Act Of Saving Is The Backbone Of Any Financial Education

The whole idea of financially educating our kids is to prepare them for the future. Teaching your kids how to (and why they should) save is the most important part of any financial education. 

After all, smart saving is the core idea of financial savviness. We teach our kids to save the right way so that they can have a comfortable future. The idea is that we teach our kids not only how to save money but also why they should save money. 

As parents, it's our responsibility to guide them and help them.  I want to help you do so by giving you some simple, practical guidelines.

4 Easy Tips On How To Teach Your Kids How To Save Money -- The Smart Way

1. Write down your kids' savings goals!

As I have mentioned before, kids learn more easily when things are concrete and not too abstract. This means that they retain things better when they are visible. Writing down their savings goals is a simple way to take advantage of this. 

For example: your child wants to buy a £30 toy. You can print a savings sheet that your child can cross off or draw on every time he/she puts money towards that goal. That way, they see their little efforts adding up towards their savings goal!

There's no better way to keep a kid at it than through constant positive reinforcement. And what better way to positively reinforce your children’s behaviour than by letting them see their goal getting closer.

2. Use separate savings jars or a KinderCash piggy bank

A simple explanation of saving is putting money aside for future use. But smart saving is also making sure that you are teaching your kids the different uses of money. 

When teaching your kids how to save smartly, you need to explain how to allocate their funds. You have the opportunity to introduce  the following 4 categories:

  1. Money to spend: money for something small you’d like to buy in the near future
  2. Money to save: money you’d like to set aside for now, to buy something more costly later on
  3. Money to invest: money you really want to keep for much later on in life (e.g. for your studies or for a house) and that you can “put to work” in the meanwhile
  4. Money to donate: money you’d like to spend for a good cause that is important to you.

Each category should have its own jar or section in a piggy bank with multiple slots. I recommend the KinderCash because it's a piggy bank that does exactly this  - which I think is quite brilliant indeed.

It's important that kids begin to separate their savings into different categories. It makes it easier for them to make sure that their money has a purpose. A tangible meaning associated with money makes it easier to learn why saving is important for those goals to come to life.

3. Let your kids count their savings on their own

Another way to take advantage of your kids' need for concrete hands-on money moments, is to let them count their savings on their own.

When their savings jar or piggy bank is filling up, let them count the money they've set aside. This lets them own their accomplishment: being able to save money for a specific goal. Once they know the feeling of how amazing it is to be able to set aside the amount they counted -- they'll be encouraged to keep on doing it!.

4.  Set good examples!

This is definitely the most important step that you, as parents, can take. The best way for kids to learn how to save smart is if they see adults around them do so, too. Often we don’t make these money moments visible to our children. So we warmly encourage you to do so.  

As your kids' role models, it's your job to make sure that you set good examples for them to follow. If your kids don’t see taht you are saving, they won’t know that you certainly are. Keep your own savings and spending jars near those of your kids, and show them that you too are putting in your pennies, that you later bring to the bank. If they see that you are walking the walk and talking the talk, then your kids will be encouraged to follow. As parents, we should always act and practice the things we are teaching them.

Prepare Your Kids For Their Future -- The Smart Way

Here at A Smart Way To Start, we want to make sure that our kids are not only putting aside money for the sake of saving. We also want our kids to grow up living a conscious and fruitful life. 

We aim to teach kids that money is an expression of values and share practices that will help them become savvy and forward-thinking adults. We hope that all kids may become responsible stewards of the planet.

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Banking With Kids – Why Is It Important?| Financial Parenting 101

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Part of any proper financial education is banking...and with that banking with kids becomes very important. 

Banking is the most important (and most basic) financial institution. Everyone will encounter the bank at some point in their lives, right? So it's much better for your kids to be familiar with banking sooner than later.

With my previous blog posts being about allowances and savings accounts, it's also right that we discuss banking.

Banking and What It Can Do For Kids

The best way to talk about banking with the kids is to make them understand how important banks are in safekeeping people’s money and lending money to people and companies who need it to grow. 

You have to let the kids know what banks can do for them as children and individuals.

First, a bank is a place to keep and safeguard their money. It can’t get lost and you can get it back whenever you needed it. 

Second, it's there to help them prepare for the future by helping them safely increase their savings. 

Third, it's there to help them in case they need money when they are older.

It's important to explain it in a simple manner first and then expand on these concepts as they grow older.

Why You Need Banks

Kids will most likely ask you why they need a bank account when they can simply save their money at home. So here are several reasons you can tell them, to explain to them the importance of banks.

1. Security

Explain to them that banks will keep their money safe. They have personnel and systems designed to make sure that money is stored securely. In olden days money was kept in large safes (though today it is managed digitally). You can explain that it's not advisable to keep big amounts of money at home. It's dangerous and there's a risk that it could be stolen.

2. Money Management

Explain that money that you have on hand is money that can be easily spent. Putting your money away in institutions like banks creates a barrier to deter you. Instead of getting the money from your wallet to spend it right away, you need to think twice before doing so. Wise spending is one of the most important aspects of managing money.

3. Interest and Investment

Explain that banks have the capacity to make your money grow while in their care. Banks lend money to other people or businesses and use the money you put in to do so. In turn, they pay "interest" to you because they used the money you deposited to lend to others. But you needn’t worry: you can get your savings back whenever you need them. 

4. Loans and Credit

 Explain that banks will allow you to borrow money them if you need it. But also explain that borrowing entails responsibilities, costs (negative interest) and very careful money management. Also, don't forget to include to mention credit tools like credit cards and cheques. It will become very important tools when they grow older. (See our e-book A Smart Way To Spend Digital Money for more details on this. The same way you cannot touch digital money, you cannot touch this book. It is digital only.) 

Tips On Introducing Banking To Your Kids

1. Make them open a savings account. As I mentioned in my previous post, a savings account will definitely help your kids jumpstart their financial journey.

2. Bring your kids to the bank. Whenever you do simple transactions like withdrawing or depositing, bring the kids. Make sure they're also there when you open their savings account.

3. Make them count their own money. When doing transactions for their account, make your kids count their own money. Let them be the one to hand over the money to the teller as well.

Why Should Kids Learn About Banks Early?

It's important for you to demystify banks to your kids early on, to reduce the barrier for them to access these institutions. With banking becoming more and more digital as well, it's important that you introduce them to the brick and mortar concept of banks. 

As I mentioned in my previous posts, younger children tend to think more concretely, and tangible, tactile experiences make learning easier. This means that bank visits will be very beneficial to them. Keep exposing them to the bank whenever you can so that it's easier for them to practice on their own when they are older. After all, our goal is to make sure that they are independent and educated financially.

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Bank Account for Kids — Do They Need It? | Financial Parenting 101

In my previous posts, I  discussed allowances and ways to creatively pay your child. For this article, I want to bring up the importance of opening a bank account for your kids as early as possible.

Here are some arguments why opening a bank account for your kids early on is one of the best things to do:

It's A Great Way To Get Them To Start Saving

It's a great way to start teaching your kids how to save, especially for the long-term.

When you open the bank account with your kids, make sure to let them know why the bank is the best place to keep the money. Ask the bank teller to explain to your child what a bank does and why the child’s money is safest there. Most banks have children account packages of some sort that allows children to engage in a playful yet serious way. And whether they receive a savings booklet or an account card, make sure they know this is theirs and that you are the guardian of it for them.  

Tip: Use the bank visits as money moments for the kids!

As I mentioned in my older post, use every moment you can to teach your kids about good money habits. Taking them to the bank is a good one.

While money on an account might feel a bit abstract, make a point of taking your child regularly (at least twice a year, better if once a quarter) with you to the bank to deposit money from their piggy bank. Help them count the money and then let them hand over the savings book to the teller. This way it makes the banking experience a bit more tangible. And you can show your child how their savings are growing over time. So whenever you can, take your kids with you to the bank. Especially if it's their account you're going to deal with, make sure the kids are with you. 

What About ATM cards?

I know ATM cards are the norm nowadays, but I recommend that for younger kids, you need to use passbooks first.

With a passbook, you can easily see how money goes in and out of the account. Everything is recorded and kids can see how the money adds up every time they make a deposit. Besides, there's no need for an ATM for kids when they're young anyway. They will not need to spend money on big-ticket items, which is very irresponsible.

You can consider giving them an ATM card or a prepaid card when they're older and are more responsible with money. By the time they're old enough to own an ATM card or a prepaid card, they're mature enough to be responsible spenders.

Start Early, Compound Early

Opening an account for your kids is also a good way to to start taking advantage of the compounding interest in banks, if your savings account still has a positive interest rate - which is admittedly becoming a rarity nowadays, as interest rates are negative in many countries. Nonetheless, If you start putting money on their account from a very young age and don't withdraw from it, imagine how much your kids will have accumulated by the time they’re 18! And if you discuss with your bank how best to invest these savings, you can certainly benefit from long term market developments despite the short term ups and downs..

In fact, especially for long terms savings that you do not need to draw upon in the short term, investing is the best way to achieve a positive compounding effect over the years. Make sure you explain to your child that this is how their money is “working for them” by circulating in the economy, and this is how it generates a return. That will encourages them to continue saving up over the years. 

Opening A Bank Account Is Signing Your Kids Up For Success!

One of the most important pros that I can point our for this is the positive effects on a child's development. Studies on Oklahoma's (United States) Child Development Accounts (CDA) program "shows that creating lifelong savings accounts for children at birth promotes their long-term well-being"

The hypothesis was that CDA and other similar asset holding or building accounts would positively affect a child's well-being and development. The study showed that kids who had money deposited in a special education savings account had better social and emotional scores compared to those who didn't.

You see, this becomes a domino effect for the kids and the expectations we have for them. Opening a savings account increases your confidence and support towards the kids. If you open an education fund for the kids, then it already creates a sense of expectation towards education. With that, parents will tend to encourage their kids to excel or do well in their studies. 

The Sooner The Better

I don't see any reason not to start very early with opening a bank account for your kids. It's one of the most important things to tackle, in order to nurture good money habits.

If we want our kids to grow up forward-thinking,  financially responsible, and financially literate, then banking is one of the most basic things that we can do for them.

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Do I Use Technology To Teach Kids About Money?

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The past two articles were about giving our kids allowance or how to give our kids allowance. In this article, I intend to close our allowance series by discussing allowance management -- both for kids and parents! One question that this post aims to answer is: Do I use technology to teach my kids about money?

Go Analog or Go Digital?

The ever-growing digital space surrounds us every day, including banking and shopping. And as such, it is also extending to day-to-day financial parenting! In-app stores, we already see parenting-related apps that support maintaining a household and managing kids’ chores.

With this in mind, I'm sure a lot of you are wondering how you can incorporate apps and other digital tools into your parenting routine. Here's my take on it, especially when it comes to dealing with money.


For younger kids, go analog

Digital is very abstract. 

And what we're seeing is that growing number of monies are transacted over digital channels or online banking. So by definition, they never actually pass through your hands. This means that it is difficult to engage the children in these money moments nor use them as learning opportunities. For kids who still do not have a good grasp of abstract concepts, it may be difficult to appreciate the relevance of a digital money transaction. Kids will not be able to grasp the value of money if they do not experience it.

They need to go through the actual motions of receiving money and giving away money. You can use apps and technology to help kids with their chore assignments and progress. But, while your kids are still young, you have to make money decisions practical and concrete for them.


For older kids, go digital

Online banking and digital currencies are becoming more and more common. With that in mind, you also need to make sure that your kids become more and more aware of money in its different forms

Once you've already established good money habits with paper money and coins, you can begin to teach kids about digital money. With this understanding, you can make careful use of apps that automatically debit money to your/their account.

Maybe the most simple but important rule is that a child should learn to always ask for permission to spend money in an app -- without exceptions. Spending digital money freely should not be a mistake children are allowed to make. While we must trust our kids and let them commit mistakes, it’s better to learn that money is wasted if you buy something of poor quality that you end up throwing - rather than enrage their parents with a huge online spend. 

The Pros and Cons of Digital

I wanted to dedicate a section to discussing the pros and cons of digital because of two things:

One is because we can no longer shield our children from a reality that is already an integral part of our everyday lives.

Second (in relation to my first point above) is that managing a child’s exposure to digital devices has become a big challenge of parenting. With that, good digital financial parenting becomes imperative. Children need a healthy balance of digital and physical interactions to develop social skills. Which means that they also need a healthy balance of digital and analogue money interactions to develop healthy money attitudes later on in adult life. Parting with money, physically giving it away, is a very different experience than swiping it away. Realizing it is gone for good is an important lesson. And just parting with something digital which you never really held in your hand in the first place, does not impart quite the same sense of accountability. 

Sometimes, good old fashioned sayings such as “take care of the pennies and the pounds will take care of themselves” really resonate with me in this digital age. There’s something to be said about physically counting coins.

I understand that taking things digital makes it more convenient for us to look after finances and other matters. But we have to be mindful of the limited cognitive capacity of younger kids' brains. 

Match Your Practice With Your Children's Cognitive Development Stage

As parents, it's our responsibility to make sure that the education and training we are giving is age-appropriate. There is no point in educating kids if they cannot understand what we want to teach. We can use technology to teach kids about money but we have to make it appropriate for their age and cognition.

Developmental psychologists have long studied how children's brain works and how it's moulded. Jean Piaget theorised that children's brains aren't simply that of a small adult’s. Human beings go through phases and levels of cognitive development. It's a sequence that a child goes through -- from developing sensory perceptions to motor activities to abstract reasoning and thinking.

At the end of the day, we want to make sure that our kids get the most learning out of everything. However, let's let our children be children. We want them to enjoy their childhood despite the important lessons we try to teach them.

February 24, 2020

Should I Let My Kids “Earn” Their Allowance?

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I already talked about how an allowance can be an important tool for raising a child. An allowance is the best way to get started on financial education and decisions.

First, it provides an avenue for your kids to learn money management in a controlled way. Second, it provides an avenue for you to begin discussing money matters with your kids. And third, it provides an avenue for your kids to learn the value of hard work through "extra allowance".

Fixed Allowance vs. Chore-by-Chore Allowance

One dilemma that parents face is whether to give your kids a fixed allowance or a chore-by-chore allowance. Some parents want to instil the value of working hard for money at an early age. So what they do is that they put a corresponding amount per chore and then kids will only get an allowance depending on the chores they do.

It can be a clever way to make sure kids do their chores, but it can also be a way to create a bad impression for chores for them. How? If kids realise that all chores have a price tag connected to them, then they will begin to see chores as optional. They can begin to cherry-pick doing which chores they want to do and which ones they don't want to do.

Also, putting a value on every chore makes housework a transactional experience for the kids. This should not be the case. Kids should realise that being part of a family means that they also have to contribute to the household. Financial education will complement kids learning proper household responsibility.

Use both as tools for financial education

With this in mind, what you can do is this: you can have a fixed allowance and a chore-by-chore allowance.

The fixed allowance is dependent on the expected chores your kids will need to do. These chores can be as simple as: doing their bed, washing the dishes, taking out the trash.

The chore-by-chore allowance is where you can assign a monetary value for selected chores. These chores are that are a bit tedious or something that requires a bit more effort to do. These chores can be: mowing the lawn, giving the dog a bath, doing the laundry and folding the clothes (not just their own clothes!).

We want our kids to learn the value of hard work while still being able to contribute to the household. They will realise that they have the capacity to earn more if they work more. The ability to earn more (albeit in a controlled environment) will allow them to feel more control over their money. This will allow them to take more responsibility for their finances.

They will also have the chance to negotiate their pay for the chore-by-chore allowance.

Raise smart negotiators

When you bring up the topic of chore-by-chore allowance to your kids, let them know that the money is open to discussion.

"If you mow the lawn very well and properly tidy and park the mower afterwards, I'll give you $7 instead of $5."

"If you also fold all the laundry neatly after washing, I'll give you $15 instead of just $7!"

Letting them know that they can get more if they go above and beyond what is expected of them. This opens up the opportunity for them to start asking and negotiating. Let them ask and let them haggle. They have to realise that their extra effort deserves more compensation.

We have to let our kids (especially our girls) realise that they cannot cheapen themselves - and to know that domestic chores have value, too. Teaching them to negotiate as early as now will prepare them in the future when they are negotiating for their pay. We need to make sure that we are allowing our kids to develop good and savvy habits as they grow up.

February 10, 2020

Why An Allowance Is The Best Tool For Financial Education

Marty receiving allowance

As parents, we often wrestle with the idea of giving money to our children. Two opposing thoughts often come to play when we are dealing with giving children an allowance.

  • First is that: I want to make sure that my child will never feel lacking and that everything he/she needs is taken care of.
  • The second is that: I don’t want my child to grow up spoiled and not knowing the value of money.

These are both very valid ideas.

We want our children to have their needs met and some of their wants given. But at the same time, we want them to know that money is something that we work hard for and is something that is not given.

In A Smart Way To Start, I always advocate for financial literacy and responsibility, and I believe that one of the best ways to do that is to give your kids an allowance. It might sound counter intuitive, but an allowance will teach your kids a lot about money management.

What are the benefits of giving your kids an allowance?

It's our responsibility to provide our kids with proper financial education -- 91% of parents think so according to a Credit Suisse Pocket Money Study. Giving your kids an allowance will teach them to be responsible with their money. If you give them a reasonable (and age appropriate) amount of money, they will learn more about money and its value through practical experience.

How so?

An allowance is a fixed amount of money that we give to children on a regular basis. What they do with it is up to them. They can use it to buy toys or treats or save it for the future.

What's important to remember is this: The more we let kids have the freedom to spend their money, the more ownership they will take and learn to have for their financial actions. They will learn that once they spend their money it is gone forever. It makes them realise that either need to: save up for things that matter or spend only on things they need.

Guidelines to remember:

We want them to make sure our kids are properly provided for. But, we also want to make sure that our kids will learn valuable life lessons from what we give. We also want to make sure that they do not develop the thinking that “mommy or daddy will always give me money whenever I need it!”

With that in mind, I have tips that you can use as a guide for this practice:

Have a strict budget and stick to it. 

When your child comes up to you and says that he/she spent all the allowance you gave, do not give them more. You have to let them learn the consequences of their spending decisions. If you continue to give them money even though they did not budget, they will see money as an endless resource.

Help your child to manage time and money. 

Let your kids know that how much time will go by until the receive their next allowance. Break that down into bit-size chunks. For example for smaller children it is easier to give them a weekly allowance than a monthly one. Understanding how long a week is and how long you have to wait to get more money after you spent it all, is a very important part of the learning process.

Let your kids have the autonomy to manage their own money. 

I know it might be hard to give your kids free rein over their money. But you have to understand that they can't learn if their hands are being held the whole time. We have to learn how to trust our kids and let them make mistakes in their own money decisions. Practical experience is one of the best ways they can learn to be mindful and conscientious about their money.

As parents, we want our children to develop positive money behaviours and a responsible mindset as they grow up. What we can do to help is to instill good habits from a young age.

Dear parents, be mindful that an allowance is not just a privilege you give to your kids that empowers them with choices. It is also an important tool to teach them about the responsibility that comes with choice.

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January 27, 2020

Parental Guide: Good Money Habits This Money-Giving Season

marty with money gift

I hope you had a very happy holiday celebration with your family! As the festivities dwindle down, I want to discuss with you what happens after all the gift-giving. This article is about discussing with your kids how to save money given to them. After all the physical and monetary gifts, another gift we can give is helping our kids develop good money habits, financial confidence, and responsibility.

Impart Financial Confidence By Showing Your Confidence

The best way to impart financial confidence to your child is to show them that you believe in them. When you talk to your children about money, especially their money gifts, make them realise that every decision they make is theirs.

Remember to offer your suggestions and your guidance, but do not force or push your idea in favour of theirs.

Here are some points for you to remember whenever you're talking to your child about what to do with his/her holiday money.

Don't forget to remind them about good money habits and saving

One of the things that should be constant is reminding your kids about saving their money. Talk about financial responsibility but don't be too insistent about it though. Mention it a casual manner while conversing.

Here are some tips on how to open up the conversation and subtly advocate for good money habits:

"I saw that your Aunt Berniece gave you $150 dollars for Christmas. That is so kind of her! Do you already know what you want to do with it? How much do you want to spend and how much do you want to save?

"If you don’t know what you’d like to buy just yet, why don't you put it aside for now? We can go to the bank together to open a savings account for you."

"Have you considered giving a small part of your Christmas money to charity or an animal shelter? We can have a look at them together if you want."

The goal is to inject the ideas in their head, but not order them or tell them that it's something they should be doing. Rather, you suggest to them the good practices that you think they should be doing. You then offer to go with them or help them out if they choose to take your suggestion. After all, the money was a gift to them.

Give them ownership over their money decisions

Let your kids buy their toy or chocolates or sweetie if they want to. The money was gifted to them. It's their money and they have full control over how to spend it.

Remember that you are trying to open a discussion with your kids how to save money given to them. Giving them ownership over their money decisions will allow them to make mistakes. As parents, we hate for our kids to make mistakes and suffer from the consequences of their mistakes. But we have to remember that mistakes are the best teachers.

It might hurt to see them be a bit careless or lose some money. But we have to let them stand and walk on their own two feet. When they realise that mum and dad will not pay for their mistakes; they will begin to think twice and begin to be more conscious of their spending.

Your advice is a piece of advice, not a command.

You have to remember that every time you give your children advice on what to do with their money, it is just advice. This means that they have the option of not accepting your advice and doing something else.

Let them. You have done what you could by making sure that you give them guidance towards good money habits; let them decide what to do with it.

Kids can learn and develop confidence, independence, and a good sense of responsibility. It's up to our role as parents to make sure they develop it by encouraging the right conversations and good habits towards it.

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